Why Submission Is Not A Gift
'Submission is a gift' is more than just a poor analogy - it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here's why it's high time to consign this tired trope [...]
Tag: Submission
Why ‘Force Me To Submit’ Can Be A Red Flag
‘I need someone to force me to submit’ is yet another sentiment which shows up in my inbox surprisingly often. It has rubbed me the wrong way for as long [...]
‘Ask me anything’
I have been answering quite a large volume of messages recently, and I thought I would write some posts on the things which bother me most often, and why. I [...]
Male Submission Is Not Weakness
The link bewteen submission and weakness has always been present, and the increasing emphasis on ultimate personal autonomy has only strengthened that idea.
Due Deference: ‘Masculinity’ and Approaching a Domme
Having just written about how male submissives frequently sabotage any chance of successfully developing a dynamic with a domme through ‘pedestalising’ them – approaching them with platitudes about ‘service’, ‘worship’, [...]