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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

I'm a lifestyle domme. These are my thoughts. /fin

Okay, but somewhat more seriously, dominance has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. Long before I really knew what it was. I pursued D/s as soon as I could and now have a 24/7 TPE dynamic . Over the years, I've written articles, guides, created resources and other bits and put them in one place. And you've found it.

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Posts closer to the style of a conventional 'blog' than my usual articles - rough sketches of ideas, posted with minimal editing and review,  possibly to be revisited at some later date. Written mostly for my own peace of mind, but feel free to tag along for the ride.

Trust is Not a Binary

July 27, 2025
This is something I have been wanting to get a proper article together on for a while and will probably write up properly at some point, but in the meanwhile,…
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The Sub / Domme Ratio

July 8, 2021
'The ratio' of dommes to subs is a myth. So, why do so many male subs claim that finding a domme is impossible?

On Sadism: The Smile

April 12, 2020
There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my face doing it. I have tried to stop it. It’s impossible. My face is just set on doing it. I thought about it somewhat today,…
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The Difference Between ‘Kink’ and ‘Fetish’

August 27, 2021
The words ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’ are often used synonymously. They are however quite distinct. To give you the Cliff Notes – most kinks aren’t fetishes, but fetishes are kinks. When I sat down to this, I found a few conflicting definitions. So, in the interests of clarity, I had a…
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Accepting Sadism: Separating Hurt & Harm

June 16, 2023
Separating hurt and harm is crucial to understanding sadism. If you're curious about how sadism works, or if you're struggling to reconcile your own sadistic inclinations, have a read.

Why ‘Force Me To Submit’ Can Be A Red Flag

September 19, 2021
‘I need someone to force me to submit’ is yet another sentiment which shows up in my inbox surprisingly often. It has rubbed me the wrong way for as long as I can remember, but I couldn’t put my finger on why. After all, the rhetoric of force weaves itself…
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