On Sadism: The Smile
There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my face doing it. I have [...]
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‘Can I be your sub?’
This particularly inane question comes in two main variants; either in the opening message, or after a few questions about me, with very little effort to engage with my answers. [...]
On Mind Games
I have been fortunate enough to have the opportunity to explore some of the darker, CNC parts of D/s, which has included quite a lot of rather delicious mind fuckery. [...]
Why I Dislike The ‘Narrative of Punishment’
Amongst the huge volume of badly written, presumptuous mental bio-hazards which clog my inbox, ‘punish me, Mistress‘ is a phrase which crops up exceedingly often. Every time I open a [...]
The Taming of the Shrew
Shakespeare is perhaps not the first place that someone’s mind might go when thinking of D/s, but I have been fond of ‘The Taming of the Shrew’ since I first [...]
‘Ask me anything’
I have been answering quite a large volume of messages recently, and I thought I would write some posts on the things which bother me most often, and why. I [...]
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is what, to my mind, defines submission. That is to say, it is the ingredient which elevates a series of acts, be they sexual, or otherwise, from a game [...]
Why A Sadist Won’t ‘Take It Out’ On You
If I happened to mention I am having a bad day in the course of conversation with a potential sub, I can usually expect something along the lines of ‘so [...]
‘So, what do you like doing to your subs?’
There’s a question that has been doggedly pursuing me, in its assorted variants, throughout my interactions with potential submissives: ‘So, what do you like doing to your subs?’ It seems [...]
Male Submission Is Not Weakness
The link bewteen submission and weakness has always been present, and the increasing emphasis on ultimate personal autonomy has only strengthened that idea.