On Sadism: The Smile
There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my face doing it. I have…
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‘Can I be your sub?’
This particularly inane question comes in two main variants; either in the opening message, or after a few questions about me, with very little effort to engage with my answers.…
On Mind Games
I have been fortunate enough to have the opportunity to explore some of the darker, CNC parts of D/s, which has included quite a lot of rather delicious mind fuckery.…
Why I Dislike The ‘Narrative of Punishment’
Amongst the huge volume of badly written, presumptuous mental bio-hazards which clog my inbox, ‘punish me, Mistress‘ is a phrase which crops up exceedingly often. Every time I open a…
The Taming of the Shrew
Shakespeare is perhaps not the first place that someone’s mind might go when thinking of D/s, but I have been fond of ‘The Taming of the Shrew’ since I first…
‘Ask me anything’
I have been answering quite a large volume of messages recently, and I thought I would write some posts on the things which bother me most often, and why. I…
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is what, to my mind, defines submission. That is to say, it is the ingredient which elevates a series of acts, be they sexual, or otherwise, from a game…
Why A Sadist Won’t ‘Take It Out’ On You
If I happened to mention I am having a bad day in the course of conversation with a potential sub, I can usually expect something along the lines of ‘so…
‘So, what do you like doing to your subs?’
There’s a question that has been doggedly pursuing me, in its assorted variants, throughout my interactions with potential submissives: ‘So, what do you like doing to your subs?’ It seems…
Male Submission Is Not Weakness
The link bewteen submission and weakness has always been present, and the increasing emphasis on ultimate personal autonomy has only strengthened that idea.