Silken Claws: Thought from a Lifestyle Domme

E-Lust 163 – Sadism, Sex Rooms and Steamy Skills for Dirty Talk

Welcome to E-Lust - a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers, helpfully organised by topic. Among many delicious and pervy things, this month's E-Lust covers sadism, sex room décor…

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Jonah Hill, Boundaries, and ‘Being Controlling’ in a D/s Context

A quick topical write up of a conversation I had with a friend about Jonah Hill, boundaries and what it means to be controlling.

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Latex Shopping

A snapshot of my dynamic: our little shopping trip to a Soho latex store, the purchase of a catsuit, and my thoughts on latex.

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Accepting Sadism: Separating Hurt & Harm

Separating hurt and harm is crucial to understanding sadism. If you're curious about how sadism works, or if you're struggling to reconcile your own sadistic inclinations, have a read.

Welcome to E-Lust 162 – Protocol, Phone Sex & P-Spot Probe

Welcome to E-Lust - a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers, helpfully organised by topic. Dive into a diverse set of perspectives and experiences from a variety of bloggers.…

Why Submission Is Not A Gift

'Submission is a gift' is more than just a poor analogy - it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here's why it's high time to consign this tired trope…

How To Set Effective Protocol in a 24/7 Dynamic

A pragmatic guide on crafting life-proof protocol - whether you're a newcomer or an experienced pro, these tips should help you design protocol which sticks!

E-Lust 161 – Lifestyle D/s, Chastity and Adventures in Writing

Welcome to E-Lust – a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers, helpfully organised by topic. Among many delicious and pervy things, this month’s E-Lust covers lifestyle D/s, a guide…

A sneaker and a high heel - the right level of protocol is like the right footwear for the right occasion.

Low, Medium & High Protocol: Understanding the Levels

A quick intro to protocol in BDSM, including a whistle stop tour of high protocol, low protocol and 'medium' protocol.

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Why Lifestyle D/s?

What does being a lifestyle domme mean and why do I have a 24/7 TPE dynamic? Here's the very post to answer those questions.

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E-Lust 163 – Sadism, Sex Rooms and Steamy Skills for Dirty Talk

Jonah Hill, Boundaries, and ‘Being Controlling’ in a D/s Context

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Latex Shopping

Accepting Sadism: Separating Hurt & Harm

Welcome to E-Lust 162 – Protocol, Phone Sex & P-Spot Probe

Why Submission Is Not A Gift

How To Set Effective Protocol in a 24/7 Dynamic

E-Lust 161 – Lifestyle D/s, Chastity and Adventures in Writing

Low, Medium & High Protocol: Understanding the Levels

Why Lifestyle D/s?

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