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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

I'm a lifestyle domme. These are my thoughts. /fin

Okay, but somewhat more seriously, dominance has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. Long before I really knew what it was. I pursued D/s as soon as I could and now have a 24/7 TPE dynamic . Over the years, I've written articles, guides, created resources and other bits and put them in one place. And you've found it.

Have a browse, have a read and do have fun.

Effective Punishments for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for BDSM Dynamics

March 16, 2025

A comprehensive guide to effective punishments for subs: from exploring the role of submissive punishment to a step-by-step on how to set effective protocol, this guide covers all the bases.

Maintenance Spanking: Why & How To Add It To Your Relationship

November 14, 2023

A quick guide, covering the FAQs around maintenance spanking in D/s dynamics, including protocols, intensity levels, how to distinguish maintenance and punishment discipline and practical troubleshooting.

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Why Male Chastity Is Not A Femdom Essential

September 27, 2023

Chastity is often framed as a must-have in femdom dynamics. Have a read and delve into why male chastity really isn't a femdom essential.

Punishment vs Funishment – An Important Distinction

July 24, 2023

Distinguishing punishment vs funishment is not just semantics. It's central to clear communication on a topic which is the backbone of power exchange dynamics.

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A sneaker and a high heel - the right level of protocol is like the right footwear for the right occasion.

Low, Medium & High Protocol: Understanding the Levels

May 14, 2023

A quick intro to protocol in BDSM, including a whistle stop tour of high protocol, low protocol and 'medium' protocol.

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Jonah Hill, Boundaries, and ‘Being Controlling’ in a D/s Context

July 10, 2023

A quick topical write up of a conversation I had with a friend about Jonah Hill, boundaries and what it means to be controlling.

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

May 19, 2022

I often get asked what a 24/7 TPE dynamic looks like. While there are, of course, times I subject my sub to various brilliantly sadistic torments, the majority of time we spend in space does not look like that that at all. For one thing, inflicting pain on someone is tiring.…

Vulnerability

July 31, 2019

Vulnerability is what, to my mind, defines submission. That is to say, it is the ingredient which elevates a series of acts, be they sexual, or otherwise, from a game to a facet of reality. It is a rather intangible thing and, while this is not my first attempt to…

On Sadism: The Smile

April 12, 2020

There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my face doing it. I have tried to stop it. It’s impossible. My face is just set on doing it. I thought about it somewhat today,…

Domestic Service: Scene versus Reality

December 13, 2018

My thoughts on domestic servitude as a part of a Femdom dynamic

E-Lust Digest

Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

Effective Punishments for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for BDSM Dynamics

Maintenance Spanking: Why & How To Add It To Your Relationship

Why Male Chastity Is Not A Femdom Essential

Punishment vs Funishment – An Important Distinction

Low, Medium & High Protocol: Understanding the Levels

Jonah Hill, Boundaries, and ‘Being Controlling’ in a D/s Context

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

Vulnerability

On Sadism: The Smile

Domestic Service: Scene versus Reality

E-Lust 167 – Maintenance Spanking, (Mis)reading Dracula and Fucking Machines

E-Lust 166 – Chastity, Multi-Orgasmic Men and AI

E-Lust 164 – Punishment, Personality and Penises

E-Lust 163 – Sadism, Sex Rooms and Steamy Skills for Dirty Talk

Welcome to E-Lust 162 – Protocol, Phone Sex & P-Spot Probe

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term

Appearance Is Not The Foundation of Female Dominance

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