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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

I'm a lifestyle domme. These are my thoughts. /fin

Okay, but somewhat more seriously, dominance has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. Long before I really knew what it was. I pursued D/s as soon as I could and now have a 24/7 TPE dynamic . Over the years, I've written articles, guides, created resources and other bits and put them in one place. And you've found it.

Have a browse, have a read and do have fun.

Maintenance Spanking: Why & How To Add It To Your Relationship

November 14, 2023

A quick guide, covering the FAQs around maintenance spanking in D/s dynamics, including protocols, intensity levels, how to distinguish maintenance and punishment discipline and practical troubleshooting.

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Why Male Chastity Is Not A Femdom Essential

September 27, 2023

Chastity is often framed as a must-have in femdom dynamics. Have a read and delve into why male chastity really isn't a femdom essential.

Effective Punishments for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for BDSM Dynamics

August 7, 2023

A comprehensive guide to effective punishments for subs: from exploring the role of submissive punishment to a step-by-step on how to set effective protocol, this guide covers all the bases.

Punishment vs Funishment – An Important Distinction

July 24, 2023

Distinguishing punishment vs funishment is not just semantics. It's central to clear communication on a topic which is the backbone of power exchange dynamics.

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‘What appeals to you about being a domme?’

June 9, 2021

As far as my frequently occurring frustrations go, this one is both particularly frequent and frustrating. Why? Well...

The Distance from the Pedestal

December 15, 2018

Given the height of the pedestal we dommes are put on by the sycophantic hoards, it's no wonder we get a little cold.

Domestic Service: Scene versus Reality

December 13, 2018

My thoughts on domestic servitude as a part of a Femdom dynamic

RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term

February 10, 2022

'Gentle femdom' forces another false dichotomy on female dominance. Here's why we should let the label 'gentle femdom' rest in peace.

Due Deference: ‘Masculinity’ and Approaching a Domme

December 17, 2018

Having just written about how male submissives frequently sabotage any chance of successfully developing a dynamic with a domme through ‘pedestalising’ them – approaching them with platitudes about ‘service’, ‘worship’, and whatever else they expect a domme would want to hear, instead of an actual conversation – I am prompted [...]

Why ‘Force Me To Submit’ Can Be A Red Flag

September 19, 2021

‘I need someone to force me to submit’ is yet another sentiment which shows up in my inbox surprisingly often. It has rubbed me the wrong way for as long as I can remember, but I couldn’t put my finger on why. After all, the rhetoric of force weaves itself [...]

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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

Maintenance Spanking: Why & How To Add It To Your Relationship

Why Male Chastity Is Not A Femdom Essential

Effective Punishments for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for BDSM Dynamics

Punishment vs Funishment – An Important Distinction

‘What appeals to you about being a domme?’

The Distance from the Pedestal

Domestic Service: Scene versus Reality

RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term

Due Deference: ‘Masculinity’ and Approaching a Domme

Why ‘Force Me To Submit’ Can Be A Red Flag

E-Lust 167 – Maintenance Spanking, (Mis)reading Dracula and Fucking Machines

E-Lust 166 – Chastity, Multi-Orgasmic Men and AI

E-Lust 164 – Punishment, Personality and Penises

E-Lust 163 – Sadism, Sex Rooms and Steamy Skills for Dirty Talk

Welcome to E-Lust 162 – Protocol, Phone Sex & P-Spot Probe

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term

Appearance Is Not The Foundation of Female Dominance

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